Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about assumptions. As psychologists, we always have to be aware of our assumptions. No matter what kind of psychology you practice, you have to be aware of your assumptions about your clients, the world, and yourself. I think that most people tend to have a pretty good grasp of at least trying to acknowledge assumptions about the world around us and the people in it, but I think we often forget that we have assumptions about ourselves as well.
It’s a classic self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that someone can’t do something, you treat them as such, and they end up not doing it. However, this is not just an external phenomenon. If we believe that we can’t do something, chances are that we won’t. Beyond what we can and can’t do, I’ve noticed that we often have assumptions about what kind of people we are. Even if these types are not negative themselves, they can be limiting.
I found myself recently declining an opportunity by saying “Oh, I’m not that kind of person.” In this instance, I wasn’t disparaging “that” type of person. In fact, from what I can tell, the kind of person I was talking about is friendly, outgoing, and successful. Am I not that kind of person? If I’m not now, don’t I want to be?
It’s good to know yourself- your interests, your passions, who you are. However, we have to try not to let that knowledge box us in and stop us from becoming who we want to be.
I hope that you are all having a lovely start to the new year!
P.S. 34 days until I am DONE with my MAOP!